The LOVE Request

“The more I think about it (divorce,) the less I give a damn about material items…

I could just hop on that plane with ‘the other her’  to Fiji…walk away from it all…”

The LOVE  Response

“I think that would be a wonderful distraction for about a month. Then everything you turned away from at home would reappear in a more difficult manner, still needing to be cleaned up. 

The LOVE  Request

“There you go talking sense again”

The LOVE  Response

“The healthiest way for anything is to choose it in the daylight. Choose LOVE in the light of day.

Whatever happens with your marriage, it and you and your family deserve the utmost respect and appreciation for the true aspects. Love exists there and that’s the truth. Any goodness has been born of LOVE. Anger, resentment and hostility exist there as well but they are born of fear. Your wife is mean to you because she’s mean to herself. She doesn’t appreciate you because she doesn’t appreciate herself.  Every time she treats you like you’re not good enough, it’s because she doesn’t believe she is good enough. That’s why she pushes herself to meet ridiculous standards.

It’s like, inside us there are two people: the parent and the child. The child is pure hearted and needs expression which requires being honored by the parent and allowed to. (express) How much of the little child within your wife has been shut down by her inner parent? How demanding has her inner parent been of her inner child? She’s mean and unaccepting of you because she’s mean and unaccepting of herself. Which is why she pushes and pushes and pushes herself  when what she really needs is to give herself permission to simply be.”

The LOVE  Request

“I’d probably stow away anyway.”

The LOVE  Response

“You know what just occurred to me? You’re a happy guy. You choose fun over suffering and alongside responsibility.  You’re so good at giving to yourself and honoring that inner child that your wife probably resents it. It shows up as lack of appreciation and condescension. But deep down she probably resents the ease with which you honor your inner child, the playful part of you, the joyful part of you. Just as you need, acknowledge and appreciate the structure she offered, she needs to learn from your child like qualities.”

The LOVE  Request

“Spot on! Saving these wisdom filled texts from you as a reminder…”